Many people avoid couple therapy, concerned that they'll end up spending large amounts of time and money rehashing old arguments and trotting out their dirty laundry in front of a stranger. Some doubt that relationship therapy can make a difference.
What I offer, however, is not old-school couple therapy. I use a model, developed by Stan Tatkin, Ph.D., called Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). PACT combines aspects of attachment theory, neurobiology, and nervous system regulation to help couples better understand and regulate each other and to create a secure, functioning relationship. In PACT, couples learn to interact with and manage each other more effectively so that when problems arise, the partners can better handle them. Tatkin developed this model to work with all types of couples, from the most troubled to those that simply need a bit of tweaking.
In session, I pay close attention to moment-to-moment changes and responses in partners' faces, voices, and body language as they act and react to each other. I teach couples to notice these changes in their partners so they can better read and understand each other. PACT therapy moves quickly, often helping couples see results in the first few sessions. I generally expect that my work with a couple will last between two and six months.
Once I begin working with a couple, that couple is my client. I do not see or communicate with individual members of the partnership without the other present, and sessions don't begin until both partners arrive. Sessions typically last 90 minutes, although some may be two to three hours in length.
My training as a couple therapist includes three years of intensive training in the PACT model with Stan Tatkin and participation in a local consultation group led by Elaine Tuccio, LCSW, one of the core PACT trainers. I'm currently in the PACT Institute's certification program, which is in its inaugural year.
I highly recommend Dr. Tatkin’s audible download "Your Brain on Love." Listening to it will save you time and money in couple therapy, and who doesn't want that?
You can find more information on Stan Tatkin, PhD, and the PACT model here.
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